By Emily Haney
An Unexpected Journey Into Kinship Care
The life of Ta, a young Vietnamese woman, has not gone as she had hoped or planned, but God is using Homes of Love in the journey of bringing redemption to the broken places of her and her family.
Ta grew up as the oldest in a family of four girls in a small village in Vietnam. She was blessed to be born into a family with loving parents who cared for their little girls and lived lives devoted to the Lord. In the evening, her father would faithfully lead family devotions with the girls and her mother would tuck them into bed with a prayer.
As she grew into a young woman, Ta met the man she hoped to spend her life with, and they were married in 2015. With dreams of the family they would build together, her future seemed bright. As is the custom in their culture, the new couple moved in with the husband’s parents to begin their life together and start a family. A few months after getting married, Ta’s family learned that her mother had terminal cancer and passed away only months later. Around this time, joy mixed in with her grief as Ta gave birth to their first son.
And then, like a bad dream, the unthinkable happened. Ta’s father was killed suddenly in a motorbike accident. In a moment, Ta’s world looked dark. She and her three younger sisters were suddenly without their parents, the foundation of their family, the ones who had loved and supported them throughout their lives.
Ta felt the weight of responsibility to care for her younger sisters. She tried to keep her family together by bringing the girls to live with her and her new family in her in-law’s home. With a small home and many people, the situation became stressful for all. It was clear that this could not be a permanent solution.
Despite these challenges, Ta remained faithful and active in her church. She had heard of the work of Homes of Love in her community and, desperate to find care for her sisters, she reached out to Homes of Love for help. It seemed the only option was to separate their family by moving her three sisters into an HOL family. She wished there was a way to stay with her sisters after the loss of their parents, but she was also grateful that Homes of Love had agreed to care for her sisters and provide a godly, loving home.
As Ta was preparing to say good-bye to her sisters, God was stirring within her a desire to someday care for other children who were in a similar situation. God was giving her a heart to help other children who were orphaned. As she left her sisters on moving day, she shared this desire with the HOL mom. Hearing this, HOL staff realized that with help from HOL, these sisters could remain together with their biological family. If God had given her a heart to care for children, why wait and bring other children to her instead of her own sisters?
Ta and her husband still faced many obstacles. They were young parents, and by then had been blessed with a newborn baby girl in addition to their two-year-old son. They realized the demands of taking on three teenage sisters who had just lost their parents would not be easy. They also knew they would have to move the sisters back in the in-law’s home briefly while finding their own home. But they asked God to confirm that He was directing them on this path, and He did. Ta and her husband agreed to be the first Homes of Love kinship care home.
Finally, as a reunited family, they moved into their new home together! A local pastor and HOL parents from four other homes in the same city gathered with the young family to pray for them and to pray over the home. We praise God that they are able to be together again and that their journey as a HOL family has begun.
In a recent letter, Ta revealed her heartfelt thankfulness for the gift of being able to remain together through the help of your generous gifts. She said, “Thank you, because in my broken time, when everything in my life was so hard, God used His great hand through you to help me and all my sisters.”
With your help, we hope to help more children through Kinship Care to remain in the loving care of their own relatives.